Updated: May 21
I just wanted to post this article about mental health in the work place. To tell or not to tell?
Biases against mental health and misunderstanding of "trauma" are problems that affect many of us in the workplace. From what I've felt and heard, it often leads to trauma sufferers leaving their high-achieving jobs permanently. I have a huge problem with this.
In an ideal world, I believe everyone should be open with their bosses and coworkers. There should be respect for mental health days and support for employees to get help. It shouldn't be hidden. You shouldn't have to make excuses. You should be able to take care of yourself.
Have you told your boss?
For what it's worth, I've been honest with my bosses and they couldn't give less of a shit. I'm ashamed to say, I've stopped trying to be honest about it. I can't stand the judgemental looks; the way everyone seemingly assumes I have a minor depressive streak that gets blown out of proportion. I haven't revealed my life history (any of it, really) or corrected them about my diagnosis. It feels like an uphill battle when you're surrounded by mental health naysayers. It's too difficult to be shut down and shamed, when you're being vulnerable, trying to do your job as best as possible, and asking to be understood.
Any other experiences? Hopefully some less bleak ones? Weigh in.
Update: I HAVE told my boss.
We went through some major changes at the office and I started feeling more comfortable/resigned to "fuck it" attitudes when it comes to being myself. Not sure how much my diagnosis means to him, but my boss at least knows that I have Complex Trauma and it causes life to be difficult.
We've also resolved some problems, such as putting a stopper on the office door so no one can fucking SLAM it all day long. He's also been more giving with my remote work days, which is massive for my mental health management.
I asked for less bleak, and I gave it to myself. Huzzah, Motherfuckers. Your turn to get honest and make workplace improvements (when the time is right).
UPDATE UPDATE: I HAVE left my abusive job
I directly cited my mental health, it went over poorly... I'm unemployed and I feel so much better, despite the new challenges.
Check out the story here!