You Are Not Alone
"Trauma victims can heal more completely if their need for stable connection is met
by family, friends, or other social outlets." - everyone.
"... But they ain't stable, and I'm tired of trying to explain my baffling brain." - enough of us.
Welcome to the TMFR Blanket Fort.
A home for recovery-minded Fuckers
Why is this a closed community? Answer: "Trauma Responsibility." Read more down below!
For $5, jump into the FULL backlog of shows! Git your private RSS code for streaming the locked catalogue of 250ish shows so far... and autopopulate your phone as they come out each week. Everything from personal experience to increasingly-educated reflection to deep-diving academic research... then applied to real life trauma troubles.
For $10, if you're into the "chat community" format, there's a private Discord server for that! Getcher episodes AND jump into the CLOSED DOOR, Niched-down Discord server 2.0, and chat in real time with Fuckers from around the world. Find answers with folks who are also working on moving past their trauma, right from your phone or PC.
For $20, get all of the above... and I'll give you whatever extras I can offer to help put the education in ACTION. More visual resources, bonus episodes, and always-open Ask Me Anythings. Plus, merch loyalty program with new designs each year, for proud MFs. Honestly, though, you're helping to support the show/my ability to keep making it. Consider these the "pay it forward" tiers. Lotta folks can't afford help, and your support keeps this thing affordably rolling for all.
and Zen Discord
So, you're "trauma advanced / expert" at this point? Maybe looking for more audible support and commentary engagement on a daily basis? Maybe seeking a "slower" approach to communicating about recovery?
We got new options. But they're extra private, per the nature of the discussions.
Jump into the SOS Daily Drop - a daily podcast release by yours truly, with a focus on discussing ongoing and nuanced life-recovery topics. Plus, all the behind the scenes dishing you can handle.
Hit up the Zen Discord for a more "penpal" style of engagement. No pressure to post, do it at your leisure, and keep your major life progress points in mind while you discuss them with other highly-advanced MFs.
Like we said, we keep this group small and intimate! It's designed for folks who've conquered the backlog of shows so far, and desire additional personal contact with a close-knit group of recovery-focused individuals. If you think you're Inner Circle material, email me below!
An ethical trauma-note on the TMFR Community.
Why is this a "closed door" community and series of shows?
PTSD creates a few personality templates during recovery, if you trust my experiences so far.
During some stages, folks can be reactive, rather defensive, and ready to stir any pot they encounter.
You know, been there. But it's not great.
Unfortunately, while these TMFRs are just as deserving of education, help, and support... not everyone is able to self-reflect without exploding. This undermines the system by destabilizing the "safe, secure, boundary-respecting" community vibe / trigger intended-friends to oblivion.
As CPTSD is just as likely to produce abusers as abusees, in May 2020 it became "wise" to create a boundary between brain-manipulating information, newbie trauma recoverers.... and people who might not have the best Self-regulation at this point.
So the Blanket Fort was born - A safe place where membership is trackable and redactable through Patreon. And it continues to be our best way to stay emotional abuse -distanced, so we can do our trauma recovery damndest.
Join the Blanket Fort when you're ready to really do the work.
But Be Kind, or your ass will get removed from the club.
We're all in this together.
There are inherent risks and rewards with any of our relationships; it’s the nature of CPTSD, ya heard?
Please know that this private group exists because:
You’ll learn immediately that you aren’t alone in this. The shit in your head and subsequent life outcomes are shockingly unoriginal, despite your best efforts to convince yourself you’re uniquely screwed.
You can learn from each other. People have already waded through the sewage you haven’t tackled yet, and vice-versa. Take real life tips and skip the hard-earned lessons; help others do the same.
You can practice safe, healthy relationships with appropriate boundaries and realistic personal expectations (for both self and other, fucking Fawners).
All of this being said.
There are dangers in “trauma connecting.” There are dangers in spending TOO much time talking-trauma (can attest). There are dangers in exposing yourself to others' trauma. And there are dangers in starting to rely on others before relying on yerdamnself.
Enter the community knowing what it does provide - comradery with strangers like you’ve never seen. Self-acceptance. Other-acceptance. Unfiltered conversations about your dark bits. Celebrations of the good days, unravelment of the shit ones.
But also what it doesn’t provide.... This isn’t a crisis resource. This isn’t a professionally moderated discussion board. This isn’t a board to recklessly trauma-vomit before taking time for yourself, ideally with your therapist.
This is a community for people like you, with real lives, real strengths, AND real shortcomings… who are trying to relearn how to live a life they didn't get a chance at, using information they never got the first go-around.
Same goes for the podcast.
Let's be responsible and respectful, with our self recovery always first in mind and others' opinions last.
Love you Fuckers. Get safe-connection building.